The quintessential “Mr Right” inhabits the imagination of many young girls who dream of the ideal partner who will complete their idea of what “happily ever after” should look like. That individual quest is dictated by individualized nuances and idiosyncrasies and one woman’s dream guy may be another’s nightmare. The real trick in finding “Mr. Right” is by asking oneself: What is right for me?
Below are some tips which may assist women in finding and identifying their ideal partner.
- Find Their Hang Out Spots
It’s no mystery that it is unlikely that you will find the next rocket scientist in a bar. If you are searching for a man with certain attributes, qualifications or a particular skill set, go the places that these men frequent. A medical convention is likely to attract doctors, a legal seminar will attract lawyers, an opera, play or a gallery may attract a man with an appreciation for the arts.
2. Kiss A Few Frogs
The chances of finding an ideal partner attract the inherent risk of having to kiss a few frogs and that is perfectly acceptable. The person you date may not be the love of your life but he may become a friend, a future business contact or the perfect blind date for a friend. In the initial stage, date as extensively as you can to increase your odds.
3. Get To Know Him
Often times as women age we become so desperate to be someone’s other half we ignore the glaring red flags that scream at us telling us to run like a thief in the night.
We have the tendency to excuse, forgive and ignore unpardonable actions of the persons we are dating. We need to resist the urge to commit and take our time to get to know our love interests. It is imperative to spend quality time dating. If someone’s value system, lifestyle, habits or behaviour are wholly unacceptable or incompatible with your own, let them go and keep on moving.
4. Delay The Action
Once you have gotten to know your new love interest sufficiently well and made the decision to focus on dating him exclusively, delay the action. This advice may sound like it is stuck in the 19th century but delaying sexual gratification can help to build a solid foundation. Focusing on who a person is affords you a greater opportunity to focus on discussing critical topics such as religion, politics, life goals and objectives. Once you have created a solid foundation based on mutual respect and appreciation there is a decreased likelihood of belatedly unearthing surprises that may prove to be deal breakers.
5. Be The Person You Would Want To Date
No person should enter a relationship hoping to be fulfilled by another. Go into a relationship with the desire to share aspects of who you are with your partner. Reciprocity is key in any successful relationship and the necessity to affirm, motivate, encourage and support your partner cannot be overstated. Men need to feel appreciated in a relationship but it important to understand your partner’s love language. A woman may appreciate a bouquet of flowers. A man may appreciate his favourite meal served by you wearing sexy lingerie.
In the end a successful relationship requires commitment, patience and time and enjoy the journey.
