Sexual incompatibility can wreak havoc on a relationship. Not feeling sexually satisfied can cause a partner to feel rejected and undesirable. For a woman, especially as she ages, life’s pressures associated with work, child rearing or the general demands of life can take a toll on her libido.
The lack of physical contact in a relationship can spiral to the point where one partner may resort to infidelity to fill the void caused by a lack of intimacy. For a woman in this situation, the pivotal question is; what can be done to successfully address this issue before her relationship becomes unsalvageable?
- Schedule Sex
Scheduling time for intimacy may feel like the death to spontaneity. However, where a lack of intimacy is destroying a woman’s relationship, this degree of idealism has to take a back burner to pragmatism.
Ideal times should be scheduled at least twice weekly for sex. All gadgets and any other forms of distraction should be put away. It is imperative that sufficient time be allotted for bonding.
In fact, scheduling time for sex can remove anxiety from the equation. Knowing the exact date and time for sex affords a couple the opportunity to prepare themselves physically and emotionally for the interaction. A set time being allocated for sex also allows both partners to be more accountable to each other.
- Compromise
Women are notorious for giving their spouses a slew of excuses justifying their unwillingness to have sex. The excuses range from a headache to the temperature not being right. The reality is, the average man will likely want to have sex when his spouse often times is not in the mood.
If a man has a much higher sex drive than his wife or girlfriend, it is crucial that she learns to compromise. She can encourage him to spend more time engaging in foreplay and gently guide him to her pleasure spots. A couple can also engage in role-play or become more innovative in the bedroom.
- Respectful Communication
One inconsiderate word can alter a man’s mood for the entire day. Whilst personal challenges need to be clearly articulated and ventilated, it is important that they are approached and addressed respectfully and at the appropriate time.
There is no point quarrelling about bills, the delegation of household chores or troublesome issues pertaining to child rearing minutes before the time allocated for sex.
Any issue that could conceivably cause conflict on the date scheduled for sex should be avoided at all costs. Provoking an argument to avoid sex amounts to the ultimate act of self-sabotage.
Realistically, some women are often not enthused about sex and it becomes more of a routine or a duty than a pleasurable experience to be anticipated and savoured. This lack of excitement could be attributed to feelings of insecurity or can be attributed to a woman’s dissatisfaction with her partner’s sexual repertoire.
A woman has to learn to affirm her partner when he gets something right. She has to be vocal but sensitive when communicating her likes and dislikes.
- Diet and Exercise
Exercise transports nutrients and oxygen to your tissues and assists your cardiovascular system to function more efficiently. The overall improvement in heart and lung function translates to increased energy levels.
By the end of the day the average woman may feel spent and is unable to muster sufficient energy for a spirited romp in the sack. So many women neglect self-care and find it difficult to schedule exercise into their daily routine.
However, the fact is that designating time to exercise will result in increased energy levels which will significantly assist a woman to navigate hectic days whilst having energy reserved for lovemaking.
Exercise is however only half of the equation. As women age they become more susceptible to lifestyle illness which can be prevented or the onset substantially delayed by also maintaining a healthy diet.
It would be very helpful to any woman to consult a nutritionist to design a weekly meal plan that meets her specific nutritional needs.
Another useful tip for any woman in managing and monitoring her dietary habits is to prepare meals in advance.
- Get Away From It All
A change of ambiance can sometimes be just what the doctor ordered. Setting aside time for a vacation or having a relative come over and watch the kids whilst a woman spends a night at a hotel can prove to be a game changing move.
The new environment can add spice and excitement to the sexual experience. A woman has to learn to prioritize her relationship and rekindle the spark.
- Be Bold
Despite so many body positivity campaigns many women still suffer with their self-confidence especially in the bedroom. It is common for women to feel self-conscious about their stretch marks, pregnancy scars, their weight and how they are perceived by their partners.
However, if a man desires his wife or girlfriend that is a clear indication that he is attracted to her. A woman should not be afraid take her clothes off and turn on the lights sometimes. A woman has to learn to appreciate that her body wears the marks of having lived a full life and celebrate that fact with her partner.
Ultimately, a relationship where a man is left constantly unfilled sexually is a relationship that is courting disaster. It takes two to make the relationship work and partners have to diligently and consistently implement strategies to address the issue of infrequent sex.
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